New blogs are like new relationships

I say that like I know something on the subject. Truth is, I had a few very short lived relationships when I was a teenager and then met Mike when I was eighteen, got engaged at nineteen and married at twenty. But sure, I remember what the beginning of our marriage was like. We talked all the time and spent every moment together. So there you go, new blogs are like a new relationship.

Yes, this is my third post today. I’m making an effort at making this look like the real thing.

AND, I just have to share the fact that this morning, I became Auntie to another little girl. Until last March, I had no nieces and just one daughter. Three boys (and another one in the oven at the time) and four nephews. Then niece number one was born to my husband’s youngest sister, who lives four hours north of us. My second niece was born on Boxing Day in Oregon, which is like twenty-four hours south of us. But today – TODAY – my newest niece was born HERE. Which means I’ll actually get to see her frequently. I’m so very excited.

I may look like a pro but I’m just faking it.

Something happens when you move into three plus kids territory. At least something happened when I did. People start asking you for advice. So when you have five, it happens a lot. And when you don’t have the answers, it seems to surprise them.

Today I was reflecting on the fact that my youngest has not been napping well lately. I’m trying hard to remember when my older kids stopped taking two naps a day. Sam, at nine months, has a snooze in the morning, often while his big sister holds him. Then he drifts off after a midday nursing but has been refusing to stay asleep if I put him to bed. And then there’s another late afternoon nap, that sometimes lasts for half an hour or forty five minutes if I’m really fortunate. But what I really want is to somehow get him sleeping at the same time that his older brother does. Ben is nearly three and would rather not nap but seriously needs it still. A two hour block of time in the afternoon with only the three oldest awake would be lovely. So I was thinking that maybe I need to keep him awake through the morning nap but I couldn’t remember if that was “normal” for his age.

So I did what most people in the twenty-first century do when they need an answer. I googled it. And of course the answers that come up weren’t really helpful at all. I got, “All babies are different,” “Babies at nine months should just be moving to two naps a day from three,” and “Most babies don’t give up their second nap until they are eighteen months old.”

See, not actually very helpful.

So there you go. Even I don’t know it all. I assume if I have a dozen kids I still won’t have all the answers.

I’m going to go with my gut on this one and just try to let him sleep a bit longer in the morning and skip that first short nap. And if that doesn’t work, I’ll do something else. That’s the best advice I could give anyone on that subject.